#015 - The "Black Box" of Love.

This week has been a rollercoaster. By day, I was involved in a multi-million dollar project negotiation, analyzing risk profiles and demanding logical clarity from every clause. By night, I was completely surrendering logic to a feeling I haven't felt in years.

I have been constantly switching between my business brain, obsessed with data and predictability, and my personal life, which has suddenly become a long-awaited mystery. It's a strange mixture of using my "Natural Intelligence"—intuition, that "gut-feeling"—for the essential part of my life, while leaving the rest to the machines.

And it got me thinking about the one thing that terrifies us most in my industry: The Black Box.

In the world of Artificial Intelligence, the "Black Box" is a massive problem. It refers to deep learning models that arrive at a conclusion without revealing how they got there. We feed the machine data, and it spits out an answer, but the internal logic remains opaque. In business, we hate this. We cannot bet a company's future on a decision we cannot explain. We spend billions trying to make AI "explainable" because trust requires transparency.

We like to believe that human decisions are different—that we are rational, explainable, and logical creatures.

But this week, I realized that love is the ultimate Black Box.

Yes, I'm in love. And yes, she is beautiful, delicate, intense, superintelligent, and witty. The one I waited for my whole life. But if you asked me to build a decision tree explaining exactly why it is her and not anyone else, I couldn't do it. There is no algorithm for the way the air changes when she walks into the room. No data set predicts the specific comfort of her silence.

If I were running my love life like I run my consulting practice, I would be paralyzed. In business, we are taught that "data beats opinion." Yet, Jeff Bezos launched Amazon Prime—a decision that financial models predicted would be a disaster—based entirely on "heart and intuition". He knew that the most consequential decisions in life are rarely made with analysis. They are made with guts.

I am supposedly an expert in Artificial Intelligence. I spend my days teaching executives how to govern algorithms and mitigate risk. Yet, the most significant decision of my life this week was based on zero AI and 100% intuition.

I wouldn't trust an AI to tell me who to love. An algorithm can optimize for "shared interests" or "geographic proximity," but it cannot optimize for the soul. That requires a sensor that only we possess.

So, I am moving forward with no roadmap, no KPIs, and no exit strategy. I know it's true love.

Call me an AI expert now :)

Warmly,

Piotr